October 16, 2013

Ever feel lonely or blue? Fear or Uncertainty? You're not alone.

As a Self Development Coach I work with clients and students on exposing and engaging with their inner core. Who they truly are. 

That can sound funny to some. What do you mean, "who they truly are?" 

So many people are living as a drone. Living the way they should live. Being who they should be. Acting the way they should act. So much so, they don't even realize they are doing it.

The purpose behind the work I do isn't to show them what they are doing wrong. Isn't to show them what would make them happy or happier. My purpose is to walk beside them as they stand in their own personal power. That's huge! Why huge? Because when you begin to really connect with your inner core, you truly begin to live your life. Love yourself as you would your neighbor. Treat yourself as you would treat your best friend.....Your world opens up.

Some are hesitant to this idea of what we'll call here, self-care. They see it as selfish. I beg to differ. I believe from my own experience and the experience of my students, clients and teachers that it's actually selfish to not treat yourself with care.

Self-care is a topic in the Live Your Purpose Program and this week we are looking at those times when we feel lonely or blue. Those times when doubt and fear creep in.

Yes, they happen to all of us. Through the program and teachings we know that what we focus on grows so what do we do when these feelings come up?

Ask yourself, "what can I do right now that would take care of me?" "How can I pamper myself a bit?"

Remember a time that brought you joy.

Smile. The physical activity of smiling can change your attitude and those around you too.

Remember an email you've received that was kind. I recommend that my clients have a 'when in doubt' journal. Each time they receive a card, nice email or unsolicited compliment from someone they: print, write or tape it in their journal.

Here are a few other things my clients do:

Stopping for a ten minute break and a cup of tea.

Take a walk outside with no agenda and just be.

Call a friend and tell them what you appreciate about them.

Make a list of things you can do to take care of you in those times of doubt or fear. Make it your go to place when those feelings arise. You'll be pretty happy you did.

One of my favorites is to:
Stop -
Breathe -
Stretch -

All to often we try to deny these feelings. Hide them or go, go, go to avoid them. All that does is make them stronger and often buries them deep. They will fester sooner or later. Might as well feel them now.

Lean into those feelings with your body and stay out of your head.

A little self-care goes a long way.
How will you care for yourself today?

Sue Simpson is a Self Development and Business Coach who works with women to live their personal strengths and share their purpose. Through one-on-one coaching, group programs like the popular Live Your Purpose program, Speaking and teaching Business and Life Building workshops, Sue teaches business and life balance as a way of life. 


Jeanne said...

And say THANK YOU to someone or something! Gratitude goes a long way to changing your thinking!

Sue Simpson said...

So true Jeanne. In this case using gratitude by being grateful for something about yourself. What are your gifts and attributes? What's really cool about you? Filling your own well from within. Letting go of searching outside ourselves...